Twitter Users React As Lady Implies Ex Was A ‘Destiny Stopper’ For Proposing To Her While She Was Pursuing Her PHD
A Nigerian woman based in Canada, Adeola Olubamiji, has become the subject of discussion on Twitter after she recounted how she ditched her ex-lover to pursue her PhD programme.
In a lengthy Twitter thread, Olubamiji said she and her ex-boyfriend were both students in Finland at the time and were juggling their education with a cleaning job.
The lady claimed that the man was madly in love with her and that he could go any length to show his depth of affection.
Olubamiji said while the relationship lasted, she got a fully-funded scholarship to pursue her PhD programme in Canada.
This, she said, prompted her ex-lover to propose to her.
Olubamiji, who is now the founder of STEMHub foundation, said she accepted the guy’s proposal due to fear that “he could harm himself” if she had rejected it before moving to Canada.
According to her, the relationship eventually hit the rocks not long after she left for Canada.
Olubamiji said she was initially scared that her action would backfire as finding love after her failed relationship with the guy became a concern amid societal pressure.
The lady disclosed that she finally got a partner, whom she described as “the greatest supporter I have ever known.”
Reflecting on her journey so far, Olubamiji said she has no regrets ditching her ex-lover to pursue her career.
“Would the guy have proposed when he did if I didn’t get the admission? I think he wouldn’t,” she wrote.
Olubamiji also enjoined ladies to avoid “destiny stoppers” trying to discourage them from pursuing their goals with marriage proposal.
Suddenly, I got a PhD admission and full funding in Canada! And it became clear that I was going to move to Canada and leave him behind. Guess what? He proposed! Chei! What was I supposed to do when I know he could kill himself if I said no. Well, I said yes.
— Dr. Adeola (Addy) Olubamiji (@DrOlubamiji) February 6, 2022
I left for Canada. With time difference and PhD student stress, the relationship became a burden. I am realistic, so I let this good man go! Told myself there will be other good men in the future. For now, let me face making myself a real, successful and good woman.
— Dr. Adeola (Addy) Olubamiji (@DrOlubamiji) February 6, 2022
I risked turning that man down. My mates started having kids over 10 years ago. They were already becoming managers in banks in Nigeria and here I was living in a basement collecting next to nothing as stipend and working as a sales girl and getting kicked by PhD thesis 🤨🤥
— Dr. Adeola (Addy) Olubamiji (@DrOlubamiji) February 6, 2022
2 years later, the best man for me came. I was in a happy place. A PhD holder, have a job, a car and saving to buy a house. I had built something for myself and was ready to start building with someone. This man is the greatest supporter I have ever known.
— Dr. Adeola (Addy) Olubamiji (@DrOlubamiji) February 6, 2022
We have now continued to build a life that amazes me. God moved the goal post and He is still moving it right now in my life. Delay doesn’t mean denial and some delays actually position you in a better place
— Dr. Adeola (Addy) Olubamiji (@DrOlubamiji) February 6, 2022
You will also be just fine. Get a life, get to a happy place and everything else will work fine. Focus on you and everything you can control
Sending you all my love as you go thought this Valentine week.
— Dr. Adeola (Addy) Olubamiji (@DrOlubamiji) February 6, 2022
To those asking what if he was rich, this is my experience and I alone know the full story. No need calculating.
Some women want our lives, careers and more first. So, we can be contributors in the marriage and not dependents.
No need trying to fight my experience. Rest 😃.
— Dr. Adeola (Addy) Olubamiji (@DrOlubamiji) February 7, 2022
Would the guy have proposed when he did if I didn’t get the admission? I think he wouldn’t.
This post is about risks, sacrifices, decisions and getting my life together before prioritizing marriage
This isn’t the only way. I chose this way and happy I did. No regrets.
— Dr. Adeola (Addy) Olubamiji (@DrOlubamiji) February 7, 2022
Her thread has since ignited a wave of reactions on Twitter, with Nigerians sharing contrasting views using the hashtag “#DestinyStopper”.
While some users argued that she took the right decision, others accused her of being “selfish.”
See some reactions from Twitter users below;
The truth is with all her achievements she’s not genuinely Happy, all she’s doing is to console herself with her achievements#Destinystopper
— Olusola Victoria Erabor (@oluvictoria29) February 8, 2022
Nothing is stopping your destiny like you bad habits. Stop blaming the poor boy. #Destinystopper
— Dr Joel Agho (MasterMind) (@JoelAgho) February 8, 2022
Never a crime to love, how loving you genuinely became stopping your destiny is beyond comprehension. You must be madd!
Finland, #Destinystopper
— chuzzello (@chuzzy247) February 8, 2022
That was what that Finland babe wanted to say, instead she called him #destinystopper https://t.co/boTU5STWPG
— BABALOLA (@deebeehel2) February 8, 2022
Didn’t the same lady who did the thread about Finland based former lover boy also do a thread about how she met another Nigerian online who was based in US while she was in Canada and this one convinced her to get a job in the US and ended up becoming her husband? #Destinystopper
— Femi tha Story Teller (@femistorystory) February 8, 2022
E for Energy…
Just imagine if walls has got no ears.. Thank Goodness some folks in Finland knows Madam PHD #DestinyStopper wella.
Haunty abeg drop small gist abeg. https://t.co/fPUULkGef2— DatAladjaBoi 🕊🦉 (@Nerolyta) February 8, 2022
Guys as you dey reason love and relationship with girls, try dey improve and upgrade yourself, because once she does it before you, you’ll tag you a #Destinystopper and move on to the next bus stop. #Finland #Zlatan #hushpuppi #portable
— Astro Favour Onyekachi Okpara (@AstroLoner) February 8, 2022
So dear young men,
Your life is in your hands. Take it seriously and face it squarely.The world will not be fair to you.
Work hard and succeed. Take school serious. Do your business with your heart.Otherwise you will end up one day In somebody’s story as a “destiny stopper”.
— #OurFavOnlineDoc 🩺🇳🇬🇬🇧💎 (@DrOlufunmilayo) February 8, 2022
Guys as you dey reason love and relationship with girls, try dey improve and upgrade yourself, because once she does it before you, you’ll tag you a #Destinystopper and move on to the next bus stop. #Finland #Zlatan #hushpuppi #portable
— Astro Favour Onyekachi Okpara (@AstroLoner) February 8, 2022
Never a crime to love, how loving you genuinely became stopping your destiny is beyond comprehension. You must be madd!
Finland, #Destinystopper
— chuzzello (@chuzzy247) February 8, 2022
