‘If Two Become One, There Would Be No Need For A Head’ – Life Coach Solomon Buchi Encourages Selflessness In Marriage
A life and relationship coach, Solomon Buchi has encouraged couples to look beyond the concept of having one as the ultimate head of the union by adopting and upholding selflessness in marriage.
In a short Twitter thread, Buchi pointed out that the Christian concept of marriage says two people shall become one.
This is according to the Bible passage Mark 10 verse 8-9 (KJV) which states;
….and the two shall become one flesh; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.
He encouraged that in marriage, a man and a woman should drop their egos, come together in harmony, love, and unity.
Buchi opined that if selfless love and harmony is imbibed in a marriage, there would not be a need for ‘a head’ in the home.
Following the Christian concept of marriage that says two becomes one, it basically indicates that a MAN and a WOMAN drop their egos and come together in harmony, love, and unity. If two actually becomes one, there wouldn’t be need for a head, unless 2 is becoming two & a half.
— (@Solomon_Buchi) July 17, 2020
The life coach explained that two persons becoming one in marriage, according to Christian doctrine, means that you see your partner as yourself and that what you want for yourself, you wish for them.
This is simple. Two becoming one means that you see your partner as yourself. What you want for yourself, you wish same for them. What you don’t want done to you, don’t do to them. It’s basically seeing yourself in your partner.
— (@Solomon_Buchi) July 17, 2020
He stressed that in marriage, if partners are truly one, they would have mutual respect and serve each other from a place of selfishness even as regards responsibilities in the home.
You want them to cook for you? Cook for them? You want to respect you? Offer same respect. You want them to serve you? Serve them. You want to see them shine like you’d want for yourself. You should push them and sacrifice like you’d do for yourself.
— (@Solomon_Buchi) July 17, 2020
Buchi stated that the process of becoming one implies that nobody is in ultimate control but just two humans doing every selfless thing they can do to be happy together.
If we are meant to be one in marriage, then why do we still need a superior(head) in marriage? It’s just confusion, cos the process of becoming one implies that NOBODY is in ultimate control; it’s just two humans doing every selfless thing they can do to be happy together.
— (@Solomon_Buchi) July 17, 2020
This birthed reactions from some Nigerians on Twitter;
In this country it’s like it’s becoming two or has been cause the man is a whole and untouched and half of the woman is given. So she just stays with half of herself. Sometimes none.
— Divarly🦋 (@Divarly3) July 17, 2020
To bring another perspective: Eve was created out of Adam’s rib. A bone on the side. Which could easily indicate that God wanted them to govern Eden side by side. If Eve was meant to be below Adam, why not a bone from his foot?
— Chakra huns (@ngwenya_nonto) July 17, 2020
In the patriarchy/white supremacy model in which we live “head”, leader, etc. means superior and has elements of tyranny and injustice. But, in the true Biblical sense of oneness, that headship is actually a call to service. True leadership/headship is not equal to subjugation.
— Emi (@loweroctave) July 17, 2020
That same bible says the man is head of the woman. God endorses Patriarchy.
— The World Freezy (@FreebornAjibode) July 18, 2020
Word. This is just the best for every relationship to go smoothly.
— Abdul Azeez (@shitazeez) July 17, 2020
What are your thoughts on Buchi’s perspective???
