“How Do I Know This Is Ordinary?”Confused MDB Reader Who Needs Advice Asks

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An MDB reader confused about her relationship sent this in today:

Hi Moji,I’m a huge fan of yr blog and I’ve been following yr site for about 4 years now. Please help post this on Instagram too because I see you get more feedbacks there.

I’m in a serious dilemma here because I don’t know if my mind is playing tricks on me. I met this amazing guy 2 years ago and we’ve been inseparable since we met. At first he didn’t have much, he was a contract staff and was earning barely 80k. I on the other hand at that time(2015) was already earning 300k at my job and I was just 25. What struck me was his intelligence and sense of humor so I had no doubt in my mind that things would get better and one day we could get married. 

That day seems to have come but I’m very afraid because of something that I noticed started about 6 months ago. All the while I earned better than him I supported him financially, encouraged him when he was down, I even contributed to helping him get his first car shortly after we met. He has always been very grateful and promised to take care of me when he gets a good job. 
6 months ago he finally got an amazing job and the pay was almost unbelievable. He got an official car, apartment and started traveling around the world and would sometimes take me along. I was so happy because I though finally we could start making plans for the future and the best part, he didn’t change but became even more living.

However something changed about our sex life. I noticed suddenly that he would always want to have sex with me when I’m on my period, and thinking back now, this didn’t start until after the new job. At first i couldn’t care less( cos i enjoyed the sex even more than when im not on) but now it’s became like a ritual. Infact sometimes he would ask me repeatedly to know when my period would start and when there’s a delay he even notices the date. 
I’ve been praying about it and I’ve never seen any sign that my man is diabolic but this period sex thing just scares me. I have spoken to him about the sudden change and he said he has always liked it but never asked because he’s mind wasn’t settled back then when he was struggling. Now he’s planning to propose and I know but I’m not sure I want to marry him because of this. How do I know there isn’t more to this period sex thing? I really love him and I don’t know what to do.

Please advice. No negative comments I plead. Thank you.

11 thoughts on ““How Do I Know This Is Ordinary?”Confused MDB Reader Who Needs Advice Asks”

  1. Lionheart says:

    Maybe he’s doing that for preventive measure against pregnancy before marriage.

    1. Odugbesan Sunday Adetayo says:

      I don’t believe that @Lionheart

  2. Odugbesan Sunday Adetayo says:

    I’m not bothered about the sudden change of his good job. But am been confused about the sex he always have with you when you’re on your period.
    Please be careful because anything can happen.
    I think as a man, he should respect you when you’re on.
    #pleasebeprayerful. The Lord will see you though.

  3. ayeotanofficial@yahoo.com'
    Sola Ayeotan says:

    It is great that you’re quite cautious and observant, and if there’s anything should be doing, its praying more than you’ve before.

    Secondly, you should think of opening up to someone you COMPLETELY trust, like your mother and hear what she has to say. It always helps when you open up on things like this to someone close to heart.

  4. Femi Yerokun says:

    With the kind of stuff we see on African Magic movies!, you need to dig deeper than his mere fantasy of enjoying Sex during your period. Before a habit becomes addictive, please consult widely.

  5. Yetund says:

    Hmm.Pls ur next period make sure u travelled out of your town or any other tricks to avoid him. I dont want to believe all is well becos is unusual of him. The work might be a camouflage. Ur life is dear and precious to u. Be vigilant n careful. Almighty will Se u through.

  6. YETIANO says:

    Hmm.Pls ur next period make sure u travelled out of your town or any other tricks to avoid him. I dont want to believe all is well becos is unusual of him. The work might be a camouflage. Ur life is dear and precious to u. Be vigilant n careful. Almighty will Se u through.

  7. mmaduka Divinelove says:

    Yetiano you could be right about the job being a camouflage, please my dear sister don’t marry him because the worst is yet to come! If you have a very good bible believing pastor who is spiritual please consult him after you have spoken to your confidant. Let God guide you and remember sex during period increases the chances of numerous negative and life threatening diseases. Pls be careful, stop it and stop him

  8. Simply Akin says:

    Please don’t listen to your heart because heart is not so smart and Love is not enough! Be careful!

  9. Ola says:

    Is he having sex with you only during on your period days
    Or he does it whenever also?

    Like some have said earlier, travel when your on your period deliberately from now on.
    And don’t talk about it with him again just be very observant and try KNOW all his movements.

    You’ve got to be in his business/dealings/associations, people he roll with.

    God help you.

  10. Lady Anonymous says:

    I pray this evil boyfriend of yours has not use your blood already.
    Sorry girl your bf is now a Cultis. May God protect you BEWARE OF MEN IN BLACK.

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